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The sources of insecurityOne of the most common causes of human complexity, associated with insecurity in themselves, in their abilities and strengths. Probably everyone knows a feeling of insecurity. It can manifest itself with fear, with fear of showing itself, expressing an original opinion, allowing oneself to spontaneity, expressing oneself or one’s feelings, their impulse. Often self-doubt is manifested as shame or a feeling of inadequacy, full of confidence that you are “not” … (like, coped, worthy, right, good, etc.). Insecurity in itself is a much broader and more important concept than it is customary to think. This is the property of the person and the state. The formation of such a property is based on the self-concept, consisting of a person’s idea of ??himself, his emotional relationship to his qualities and potential behavioral reactions. At the same time, the level of confidence is directly related to emotionality, high self-esteem, spontaneity, and back is associated with anxiety. Those. confidence is stronger the more the person is emotional, spontaneous, and the less anxious (or vice versa – the more self-confidence, the less anxiety). The feeling of insecurity is also accompanied by feelings of guilt and shame, and on the contrary confident people are relatively free from guilt and the experience of shame. Characteristic signs of self-doubt are a feeling of stiffness and stiffness, impossibility and inability to show exactly what you want (act, statement, need, interest, etc.). To a greater or lesser extent, such feelings, every person experiences. (Of course there are exceptions). Almost everything, even confident and successful, communicatively, intellectually or otherwise gifted people, those about which “this one will never think”, are well acquainted with this feeling. They also experience discomfort and stiffness, painful experiences of their inadequacy. Let’s try to figure out where the self-doubt arises, where its origins and why so unlike people have such similar psychological states?Something universal”The whole human race is represented by the water individual. He is an individual with his own characteristics and in this sense is unique; and at the same time he is the bearer of all the characteristic properties of the human race. His individual personality is  determined by the peculiarities of human existence common to all people.Therefore, consideration of the human situation must precede the consideration of the individual. ” (Erich Frome). A person occupies a unique place in nature. Man is the weakest and most unadapted animal, he has the longest period of adaptation of a newborn, least of all physical strength and natural means of protection and attack – claws, teeth, muscle strength. But such physical weakness and vulnerability initially served as an impetus for the development of man and for the elevation of man over nature. It can be said that it was precisely from the moment of isolation from nature that a person began directly. Up to this point, a person identified himself with the surrounding sea, did not distinguish himself as a separate creature. Having risen above the nature, having allocated, the person could masternature, put it in his service, as a result, a humancivilization. Human culture is created to ensure security and meet needs, building a culture has become possible, thanks to the elevation of man over nature. But, having mastered the natural material world, a person lost his belonging and belonging to nature. He was isolated from those forces that previously gave him confidence and a sense of reliability, but also limited his development. The history of the development of civilization is the history of the process of development of individuality and as a consequence of isolation, an increase in the sense of isolation. It turns out that the process of human development is of a dual nature: on the one hand, a person becomes stronger, increases his power, on the other hand he has less and less grounds for his existence within nature, becoming more open to a feeling of insecurity and isolation.A child in the womb of a mother, a primitive person who identifies herself with her tribe and the forces of nature, a medieval inhabitant who is under the strict control of her community and church, are all bound by “primary” ties that “imply a lack of individuality” (2) individuality, but at the same time give confidence and stability. InsulationBeing born, the child leaves a comfortable home inside the mother, he becomes a separate whole. But in the process of its development, the child remains for a long time merged with the mother in an emotional connection. These links are organic and are an important condition for healthy personality formation. In the first years of life, the child does not draw boundaries between himself and the world, he does not feel his own separate from the surrounding people. The feeling of one’s individuality and individuality is the result of development and experience, it arises later, approximately in the fourth year of life. To illustrate this phenomenon, the following example is very suitable: “Grandmother led grandchildren – 3 and 7 years, to choose a birthday present for my mother, a boy of three years bought a toy car for my mother, and a seven-year-old vase.” It’s not that the younger brother is an egoist, that the child is not yet aware of the individuality of my mother’s existence and consequently the existence of her other interests. He perceives it as a part of himself, and believes that she, as well as him, will be interested in the machine. In the process of development, mastering your body and mind, the child begins to realize himself as a separate being, an individuality appears. You can say, at this moment, he really appears as a person. The child is aware of his separation from others. At this stage, and there are contradictions between his own desires and the desires of adults. Such contradictions could not have existed before, since submission to others was the same as the fulfillment of one’s own desires. The child’s development of competence, strength and abilities is again of a dual nature. On the one hand, self-consciousness develops and develops, Individuality develops, on the other, the child loses his belonging to the world. He is no longer part of the element that previously hampered his development, giving security. This separation from the world, which in comparison with itself seems so disproportionately huge, powerful, and often dangerous and hostile, leads to a sense of its insignificance, causes fear and insecurity in its existence. Thus, the process of individualization is both positive and negative. The positive character consists in the development of one’s own strengths and abilities, in the formation of one’s individuality, and the negative one, in the loss of organic belonging to the surrounding world, and in consequence of a feeling of isolation, uncertainty and fear.