Socialization stage”. It means they are starting to find


Socialization is one of the most important parts of
any child’s life on a daily basis no matter wherever places they would be.
Children as young individuals are socialized by different people especially
those with their age group that they are surrounded with.  This includes children of their age, beyond
their age and adults that are connected
and related to them. Playing is one of the means of children’s act of
socialization as this covers the part of their developmental stage and
developmental tasks.


As stated in Significance of Friendship
page 112-113 “Children engage in them with other children, and in many instances, these children would describe one
another as their ‘friends’. Our youngest members of society see their
companions in playtime as their usual buddies as they are in their pre-gang
stage. It is the time in which the more children they can get along with play
will stand as the symbol to keep them contained with their playmates. They
consider other children who have the same interest with them as their regular
companion until they established a good
relationship of friendship even though they do not fully understand what
‘friends” means to them.

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As mentioned in 3.1 Children’s experience
of friendship means a psychological understanding

not only for adults but for the children’s
best benefit. 


According to Robert Selman “, He put forward the hypothesis that the development of
children’s conceptions of friendship would relate closely to the more general
development of social understanding, in other words,
the ways in which children construe, interpret and represent other people’s
points of view.”

His hypothesis in the concept of friendship
among children varies from ages of every child. Primarily the level of understanding of
friendship among children is the benefit of the happiness on their end. The
means does not justify the importance yet for these young members of our


Based on Robert Selman’s different levels
of skill in taking a social perspective among children he viewed the following:
1) Momentary physical playmate; it is the stage among children 3-5 years of age
in which it means the ‘I play with you, you play with me” scenario in every
child. Whoever comes in their way as long as they enjoy the moment of
characterization of the play, they would enjoy it. 2) One-way assistance; among
children of 6-8 years old ages socializes in a win-win
situation in which they consider having friends is a beneficial factor only.
That their friend will do good things to them only as they are in their
“psychological gang stage”. It means they are starting to find out who among
their friends would be good to them and not; and only those who are good that
they will keep. 3) Fairweather
cooperation; is a part of their stages in
which they learn to face the little by little the realities of friendship. They argue they fight, they get jealous of attention and others. Thru these
different emotions that they eventually learn that children start to build
emotions to establish the real importance of friendship as part of their lives.
At this age, they can eve declared or
determined the term “best friend” as their best buddy as years go by in their
lives. 4) Mutual concern; at this stage as considered as a final stage of their childhood they see
friendship as part of their individuality and personality. They see other mutual
friends as a bond of the totality of
their personality.


According to Selman, he sees children’s friendship developing in a linear and
systematic fashion. It simply means as the child goes with his or her age his
perceptions of the importance of every individual who is
part of their environment matters a lot to each child. Thus environment explains how conventional and
innovative it is nowadays. Visual images play an important role in influencing
manner of the relationship between children and even adults too. What
children see serves as their model regardless
of the impact it will implicate to the. As
they go through their developmental stages the developmental tasks happen also
in which they familiarize themselves on how to manage lifelong process not only in terms of friendship but as an
individual is managing their
socialization aspect in life.




On page 118, it was mentioned about the
sociological understanding among friends to children. Playing stands as
important role as a tool among children in
socialization. They use play as interactions in finding friends. The more
interactive the games or plays for the children, the more they get the chance
of interaction and finding compatible children of interest that they consider
as their friends.

Having friends or establishing friendship
relationship children simply implicates the needs of socialization. It I
somehow related to the symbiotic relationship of human in which starts as they
learn to explore their environment and to discover themselves. Being mentioned
that the relationship among human is comparatively universal with each other.
The age, gender, interests, culture are some of the primary factors in
establishing a relationship and how an individual at very young age interacts with his
environment in the process of learned or acquired social skills.