Interpersonal communications is about humans, and our ability to relate to one another effectively, it is about listening, and speaking positively, disagreeing constructively, to lift each other up emotionally and embracing each others differences, but whether acting as sender or receiver, have the willingness to give feedback to build a healthy open line of communication to last a life time. Principles and Misconceptions in Effective Interpersonal Communications Communicating what a person may feel is in itself a misconception, if the receiver does not understand the message heard.
Without feedback from those on the receiving end of the message, misunderstandings will occur. Most misunderstandings occur because the sender is unable to convey the message clearly, and concisely causing confusion for the receiver, making it difficult to translate the message correctly. An article written by D. B. Ryan (2010) for Livingston, a partner of the Lance Armstrong Foundation for healthy living says, the language of the speaker itself may present a problem in that, it may cause confusion. The tainted message of the sender, colored with personal biases, and personal experiences, can cause the receiver to misunderstand (Ryan, 2010).
Sending a message does not always mean that the receiver understands. Many times “Rational messages are often unclear or ambiguous and may require verbal checking” (Sole, 2011, sec. 2. 3). Sometimes saying more, is not necessarily better, on which Sole (201 1) also states, “Verbal and nonverbal components act like punctuation in a conversation and can often lead to misunderstandings or communication failure” (sec. 2. 3). Communicating effectively provides for individual essentials, helps people learn about homeless, and builds self-esteem and social acceptance.
Communicating effectively is necessary in every aspect of the business world, but is essential for building lasting personal relationships. When we think of communications, it is difficult since we have been communicating from birth, to think of our ability to communicate as anything else but simple, and yet communications begins with learning six simple principles for effective communications. First of all Jon and Astrid, communications is representational, meaning as humans we learn to use pictures, objects, and sounds to communicate with others. Humans have always, since the early beginnings of communication, used symbols.
Symbols are those things that we use to represent other things. Consider the first thing a young child learns to do, draw. Drawings in the history of early man symbolize things, and their way of life. Symbols today have meaning, but they are not the thing that it symbolizes. Take for example, the pictures that I have of both my dogs. The symbol here is the picture of my dogs, but it is not my dogs, it is only a symbol used to elicit the emotions I have for them. As both of you think on your life together, you will n no doubt think about having a home.
Whether spoken, or nonverbal, your future home together symbolizes something that has meaning. Some symbols we use as humans have more meaning than others do. What is important here to remember is that symbols sometimes, are created randomly, and as Sole (201 1) states, “No reason or principle governs why one symbol rather than another is used to describe something’ (sec. 1. 3). Secondly, words, gestures, and symbols all have meaning, and as humans, we share meaning with other people. One human trait that each of us possess, is he desire to share with other humans.
An example of how people share meaning, is the story of the abandoned building a few doors away from where lived growing up. A female raccoon and her two young had ventured out in search of food, and I suppose, as a training exercise for her young in survival. Next to this building, was a large tree with branches that stretched out close to the building and when returning to their home the mother climbed the tree. The mother reached a large branch then turned around to instruct her two children to follow. First, one followed, but the smaller of the woo was so frightened, instead sat motionless on the side of the tree a few feet off the ground.
The mother chattered as an attempt to coaxes her young to come, but failed. My mother and l, and our neighbor were so concerned that another animal would find the baby, that our neigh boor quickly went up to the baby raccoon, and gently patted the baby on the butt. The baby raccoon more frightened of the man ran up the tree to the mother. The example shows how each of us shared concern. What I have learned in the interpersonal communication class is that words have no meaning, that meaning is an emotion that humans possess.
Communicating effectively and reaching a mutual understanding with others is an ongoing process acquired through shared meaning. Communicating is a process, we interconnect with others, we are changed, and this changes relationships and people. In addition, communicating can differ culturally, and will change as people’s environments change, but it is also important to remember, communicating has purpose. Barriers to Effective Interpersonal Communication Listen with discernment. Sometimes what sounds like the easiest thing to do is actually the hardest.
New relationships are exciting, learning about this new errors in your life, and the possibility of a new love. In the beginning though, each person is cautious, and uncertain of what each should say and not say to each other, but even in established relationships there are barriers that can weaken the structure of relationships. Three problems can arise in a relationship, and stagnate communication. In relationships, emotions can run high when misunderstandings occur. This may cause silence or a refusal to speak. The person on the receiving can get ‘the cold shoulder’ ignored as if he or she is not there.
I came across an article just recently called “When Talking Makes Things WORSE! ” written by a doctor, mentions that only two percent of Americans think before they respond during an argument, a survey conducted by the National Institute for Dispute Resolution. The doctor also said, “No wonder talking makes things worse” (Stilwell, 1997, p. 1). Listening is crucial to minimizing or eliminating misunderstandings, which take developing skills such as paying attention, giving full eye contact, and not allowing other things to occupy the mind. Although this is good advice, the first barrier is placating.